Plus, successful songwriters share their secrets! Kari Jobe, Jason Ingram and Reuben Morgan on writing lyrics that touch the soul.

But in the past year, only a few months after she stepped into this new role, Antonia got married. And while her husband never talked much about kids before they tied the knot, suddenly he feels it's time to start a family. Seeing his friends and siblings having children, he really wants his own. He's not forcing the issue, but it's pretty clear that his desire to have kids soon isn't going to go away.

Antonia never wanted kids immediately after getting married, at least not for five years or so - and she doesn't feel she can do both her job and motherhood at the same time. Working part-time might seem like an obvious answer, but her role isn't something that could be easily downscaled. It was advertised as a full-time position, it's the type of job you work towards for years, and it really needs someone dedicated to the task five days a week.

Motherhood, or marketplace. Which should she choose?

 
• Antonia has thought about trying to negotiate some special arrangement with the boss to work part-time in her role, but in her heart of hearts she feels that if she tried to juggle both the job and being a mum, both would suffer.

• She's also wondering if it's selfish that she wants to continue her job, rather than start a family. Is it wrong that she would rather work for a few more years rather than raise a child?

• And is it wrong if she doesn't agree with her husband that now is the time to start a family? Should Antonia be submitting to her husband's wishes, and if so, how can she change her mindset to be more enthusiastic about the idea of becoming pregnant and leaving the job of her dreams?

Give Antonia your advice below. If you're a woman who has faced this dilemma, we'd particularly love to hear how you made your decision.

Why are increasing numbers of boys suffering from body image and self-esteem problems? Why do they feel worthless without the latest brand-name toy, game or T-shirt? What impact are violent video games and our sexualised climate having on them?

What's happening to our boys? Author Maggie Hamilton shared her research on adolescent pressures with us last Sunday, with information that no parent, uncle, aunt or educator should have missed.

a) It is a giant credit to the ACL to pull this event off for a second time. No doubt advisors on both sides would've questioned its value for their respective leaders.

b) There was little in each leader's address to get excited about. Rudd took the opportunity of talking about the ALPs current Education Building projects, support of chaplaincy etc. Abbott focussed much on providing a strong economic future for Australia, through which good works could be done (my words). There were no policy announcements, like Howard's internet filtering software initiative of 2007. It was a little bland, although Abbott was a little more detailed on his values.

c) Rudd was smooth but said nothing about any personal sense of faith. Abbott's speech was littered with biblical references but his statement, 'As a Christian, I believe people are basically good...' would've raised many an eyebrow from this biblically-astute crowd.

d) The questions asked by the Christian leaders - on issues of Indigenous health, immigration, climate change, the definition of marriage and gay civil partnerships, chaplaincy, the sexualisation of children, and prayer in parliament - were very general and brought very general answers from both political leaders. Politically, it may be asking too much to desire more specificity but I longed for sharper questions.

e) I was interested in Abbott making such strong ties to John Howard as his 'mentor' while positioning him as someone who was 'a man of his time' whose values Abbott would take forward in new ways.

f) The event's great value is showing both leaders that there is a voting Christian public keenly watching their moves, rather than Christians gathering any great insights from the leaders themselves. This could be 'tweaked' to provide more of the latter, but is still a valuable service. I hope this event becomes a key event each election time.

I caught up with those Christian leaders who got to ask questions of both Rudd and Abbott afterwards and asked them how they felt about the answers they received. Their feelings were mixed; you'll hear the on Open House this Sunday.

Did you watch the webcast? What were your impressions?

Well it's interesting that just the night before, 5 minutes down the road at Melbourne Town Hall, there was a debate going on over whether Australia is still struggling with its racist past. It was part of the St James Ethics Centre's "Intelligence Squared" series; And we thought it'd be good to hear from speakers on either side of the debate.

First, we spoke to Haneefa Deen. She's an award-winning author, and third-generation Pakistani Australian; She's worked with the Human Rights and Equal Opportunity Commission, and is former Deputy Commissioner of the Multicultural and Ethnic Affairs Commission of West Australia;

We also caught up with Dr Tanveer Ahmed; He says Australia has moved on from its racist past; and is a very successful multicultural society. Tanveer's a psychiatrist, and a Sydney Morning Herald columnist who often writes on the issue of racism.

Tell us your views.

Is Australia racist?  

How do we compare to other nations?

And are comments about skin colour ok if you're 'just bantering with friends', or is that unacceptable in any context?

Share your stories, experiences, and views.