Hugh wants to know whether it’s OK to share the personal issues of his friends – with his spouse.
Is this gossiping?
Or is a marriage such a tight knit relationship that both partners should know and are able to share everything with each other?
When he does tell his wife something about one of his friends, it doesn’t go any further than that.
He trusts his wife completely, that she won’t pass on the information to anyone else.
But is this still betraying the trust of the friend who confided in him?
• Is gossip something that’s unique to friendship /work circles?
• Does information about others discussed between a husband and wife count as gossip?
• Where do you draw the line between open communication with your spouse….and maintaining the trust of friends who confide in you?
• If you told a friend something personal, do you assume it will be passed on to your friend's partner? Or do you expect confidence to be maintained?
Comments (3)
I don't think it's apropriate to tell your wife anything which a friend has confided to you. It's between you and your mate. You never want to break the trust of a friend, for if ever your friend got suspicous or found out, it would be heart breaking. I can speak from experience. As a person who doesn't open up often, i opened up to someone who i trusted. My sister had liked the guy and in the end they got together and are now engaged. The worst thing for me was when i had suspicions and found out that he had told my sister everything. Now i find it hard because i have forgiven him, but i still hurt, which i see as a sign of unforgiveness!
Posted by Marie | June 8, 2008 5:15 PM
Posted on June 8, 2008 17:15
I once heard it said in a sermon (i think it was by Rick Warren) that if ether you or the person you are talking to are not part of the problem or part of the solution but you are talking about it anyway you are gossiping. I think theres a lot of truth in that.
Posted by Joanna | May 29, 2008 8:38 PM
Posted on May 29, 2008 20:38
I always talk things over with my husband & like wise he with me, we mostly share stuff to pray about it between each other. I feel it's the way we say things that makes it"gossip" a problem shared is a problem halved in my eyes, your wife may hold a key to a friends situation or whatever so I feel we should always share with our spouses.
Posted by Karen Mcilwain | May 26, 2008 1:46 PM
Posted on May 26, 2008 13:46