This week’s dilemma is about a secret – and whether or not to tell.

Jenny’s dilemma relates to a couple she knows well. She’s been friends with them for some years – she went to school with the couple’s son.

Here’s Jenny’s dilemma: this couple are grandparents but they don’t know it.
Their son secretly fathered a child with his girlfriend 20 years ago. They split up shortly after the pregnancy; his parents never met the girlfriend and have never been told about the child.

Jenny’s caught in the middle, and she wants to know from you whether it’s her responsibility to tell her elderly friends that they have a grandchild that they don’t know about.

DISCUSSION POINTS:

• Is it Jenny’s responsibility to speak in this situation, or could she just dig up things that don’t need to be dug up?
• How important is it that grandparents know about their grandchildren?
• What about the mother, and the grandchild themselves?
• If the son refuses to tell his parents, should Jenny?

Give Jenny your advice.