Rebecca is in her late twenties and has been with her boyfriend for around the last year and a half. She’s starting to feel pressure from her family and friends to marry her boyfriend, and finds it awkward when she’s around elderly aunties who ask them both when they’re going to tie the knot. She laughs it off each time, but the compound effect of everyone asking all the time is starting to wear her down.
What should she do?
Should she continue to laugh off the suggestions...or should she tell family members the truth…that she doesn’t like to be asked so constantly about whether or not she’ll marry her boyfriend? She doesn’t want to offend these family members, who obviously care about her and her future.
How do you respond when people say 'when are you two getting married?!'?
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Oh no! The dreaded family gathering where the auntie with no shame starts sticking her nose where it's not wanted or needed!
To all those aunties - STOP! Please! We may be younger but we do have something upstairs still...
Rebecca, I think there are so many of us that have been through this dreaded time of family and friend interaction. I know I have! My only suggestion is to cover them off with something like a "We'll let you know" or other vague comment that they can't prod you further with.
The thing that bugs me most is that these people feel it is almost there duty to pressure you to get married. Don't let them. There's absolutely no reason to get married until you feel 100% ready for it. If not, your cheating yourself.
Many a relationship has hit the 18 months mark and then not worked out. It's not some magic number. Some people wait seven years and still don't make it down the aisle. Others are bustling down in three months. Everyone is different and it's up to you.
Maybe it would be a good idea to talk to your boyfriend and see where you're both at. You could come up with an approach that works for you both, and have a talk about the future along the way. Either way, be true to yourself and where you feel the realtionship is heading.
Ultimately though, it never stops. If you do get married the aunties start with "So when are we getting a little niece or nephew.....?"
Posted by Helen | September 10, 2007 11:04 AM
Posted on September 10, 2007 11:04