Natalie is in her early 20’s - she met and started going out with a guy last year - he proposed four months later and she accepted. She describes him as a loving, thoughtful and intelligent guy.
They're planning to get married half way through next year…the engagement is around a year and a half due to financial reasons.
However Natalie says there's some tension in the relationship because they have different ideas about sex before marriage.
As a Christian, she was brought up to believe sex is something that should be saved for marriage. Natalie’s fiancée is also a Christian, but he says it’s OK if they have sex before they get married.
She says she feels guilty when he wants to kiss and touch her, because that's going beyond the boundaries she's set for herself. He asks her to have sex a lot, but this makes her feel uncomfortable, since she wants to wait until marriage.
What should she do?
DISCUSSION POINTS:
Should Nadia be marrying a guy who doesn’t respect her physical boundaries? Will he respect her more once they’re married?
Would getting married earlier solve the physical intimacy problem?
Natalie is concerned about her fiancee’s relationship with God – should she confront him about it?
Comments (1)
The time between engagement and marriage is really tough. You've decided to go for it but there's this 6 or 12 month period to wait for the wedding day.
Some advice from my experience...
1. Natalie stick to your commitment, you decison is right.
2. Your fiancée needs to respect your decision and keep the pressure off. He should work on his self discipline. That's an attribute worth developing for life.
3. Shorten the engagement its way too long, if its financial comprise on your wedding plans.
Somewhere in all that pray and seek wisdom from church folks you respect.
Posted by Andrew | April 12, 2007 3:29 PM
Posted on April 12, 2007 15:29